I am seeking advice from all my experienced potty trainers... because I am in desperate need. My little Brookie is well passed 2 1/2 and I am a little worried that she is never going to get potty trained. Our biggest hurdle I think is that #1: She could care less if she is messy. Not to be too graphic, but she'd sit in a poopy diaper for 2 hours if I didn't change her. And #2, I don't think she has any concept of being able to hold it once she starts to pee. We've tried to just put her in underwear but after a half a dozen accidents we were done with that. I think that I am having a hard time because before Anna was even two she was able to go poop in the toilet and not long after that she was able to be dry all day. When did your kids train/ how old? Did you buy one of those small potties (we didn't with Anna) and any other ideas that worked for your family? Thanks!
Signed: Tired of wiping bums
4 years ago
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Linnae didn't potty train until she was 3 and she still doesn't stay dry at night. I tried and tried so many times before that and then it seemed like something just "clicked" with her and she got it one day. I guess my advice is to just wait until she decides she's ready. (I know...easier said than done!) Good luck!
Okay this sounds boring and yes! extremely annoying. But with Peyton we camped out in the kitchen which was right beside the bathroom and stayed there all day. Peyton went totally buck on his bottom half. We cleaned out the cuboards, wiped down all the unused pots, washed dishes, etc.. everytime it looked like he was about to go we sat on the toilet. It was a long day but it worked. He was potty trained that day.
And it was I asking for your advice just a short while ago!! Halle didn't train until about a week before she was 3. With all the traveling we were doing I didn't want to have that! Brooklyn sounds like Halle...a little stubborn streak runs through Halle and that was our biggest hurdle. She got peeing down on the first day, but pooping took I think 2 weeks. She just wouldn't go! (I know graphic sorry) until finally we got a princess carriage at the store, and called it our pooping carriage-every time she pooped in the potty she could play with it. If she had an accident that I got to play with it. That finally worked (for the most part). Only a short while later she realized that if she peed her pants while in timeout I would let her out...like I said stubborn streak. Good luck...I know it is hard but sometimes you just have to wait! Keep us updated!
Ok, so Maisey was like Anna, but I know of plenty of little girls that wait (I won't give you ages and discourage you). We did buy all the different potty's so when she got bored we could switch it up. We had the little seat that fits over the toilet, and we have a2 Baby Bjorns, both of which you are welcome to borrow to give them a shot. One is red with a seat0like back and a removable basin, and the other is a one piece contoured seat. The big toilet may be unwelcoming because of its large size. I have heard of the 'reward' or bribery system, like an M & M every time they go and more for #2, I ahve heard of undies shopping, and I have even heard of bribery with a new bike! They all worked, but the biggest motivator I've seen in preschool! Good luck, let me know if you need a potty!
My kids were all different--baby #1 potty trained at 2 in a day, #2 was 3 years old and it took a few months. #3 was 2 and a half and took only a week or so, and now I am on my little stubborn #4 who had no desire or ability, so I'm giving up until he shows some effort or interest!
You're so funny. Bennett was 2 and did great, even stayed dry at night...Max 2 1/2 and still had to work with him at night. What we did is we would let them go around naked, no underware so they could see the mess they were making and it actually embarrassed them to see their pee and poop. We would also tape to the bathroom door a dummie sucker so they could see it all the time and when they would go on their potty, even just a little they got that sucker. It has worked flawlessly for my two boys. I'm not big into bribing at all but this seemed to work great and after a while it became second nature and they didn't even expect or want a sucker anymore. Good luck!!
I was having the same trouble with Macey. I know they say wait until they are ready, but it's true, it has to be there idea. I tried to push it on Macey and it wasn't working so we quit for a little bit and it was when she was closer to 3 years old that she gained interest. I bought the little potty and used it about a week and it then became out foot stool so she get up to the big potty. I just bought one of the kid inserts for the toilet so they don't fall in. I did the whole sticker chart thing. I used pull ups maybe one day and then only at night. So I recommend straight to panties when it's time because she thought the pull ups were like a diaper. Sorry, I know it's tough. But one day it will just happen. I know hopefully sooner than later. Just check with her every now and then to see if she wants to use the potty, one day she will.
Ahhh!! Potty training is a curse word at our house. Don't feel bad. Kinlee was just over 3 when she was finally potty trained. I found with Kinlee I had to decide to do it for good. No turning back, she is so smart and can play us like crazy if we let her so I have found I can never go back on my word or she gets confused. I covered the whole house with painters plastic (for my own sanity) and told her today is the day and that I was not going to buy her diapers anymore. I made a sticker chart and had a little potty chair that fit on a regular toilet. It took about 3 days for peeing during the day, 2 weeks for no accidents at night and 3 weeks to get pooping down pretty good. (she still occasionally has accidents with pooping) Kinlee can be a turkey sometimes and would pee or poo on purpose. I found the best consequence is to take a toy away. I put it in a clear container so she could see. Then when she did a good job (like tell me she needs to go or have a day without any accidents) she got to go to the container and pick a toy back. I only did this when it was clear she had done it on purpose. Looks like you got a ton of advice. Hope things work out soon.
Not looking forward to those days...good luck Jamie!
I recommend a really old book called, "Potty Training in a Day." You can tell it's dated, but the concept works. Basically, it's not scheduling anything else in your life that day. You live in 5 minute increments (with a timer and rewards) and live on rewarding "practices," "attempts," and "successes." It's very tedious, but by the end of the day the child has it figured out. I also found that I had to bite the bullet and not put on a diaper that first night after potty training all day. I put down a hospital pad type thing under the sheet, but told myself even if I had to wash sheets for a week, it would be worth it to have them completely trained. I never had to wash sheets, it somehow clicked in their little brains throughout the day to control it at night too. I know this isn't the case for everyone, I was lucky. We were quick to take them first thing in the morning to continue their success. Even the 2nd and 3rd day I still set the timer and "practiced" every 20 minutes, then every 30 minutes, until I could trust they were going to tell me on their own. It was helping them have many successes and gain confidence in themselves. My girls caught on the first day, my son took a little longer. Yes, it is more responsibility and time consuming on mom's part the first few days, but totally worth the concentrated effort. Good luck and let me know if you want more info.
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